I feel like most people go through a variety of existential crises throughout their life. I even wrote about the various existential crises you will most likely go through before you’re 30. I’ve been through every one of them and probably a few more.
So how do you find yourself? What happens when you’re lost and don’t know where to begin to get started again? In this post I’m going to go through what I did that helped me figure out what I wanted to get out of life and how I started setting goals.
Take Personality Tests
This may seem really silly or useless, but hear me out.
The biggest problem I had when I was lost was I was really lost. Like, was questioning everything about myself including what I liked and didn’t like. Nothing made sense and I couldn’t even answer simple questions like “what do you like to do?” or “what do you want to do?”
I scoured through Pinterest to find the best posts about finding yourself, but none of them really worked completely. Most of the advice wasn’t what I was looking form. Sure, meditation, going for a walk, and journaling are all good, but that wasn’t going to help me figure out myself.
It wasn’t until I started to put things from various posts together where I figured out what worked for me.
This is probably the one most people are familiar with. This test sorts you into four categories based on two choices each:
- Introversion (I)/Extroversion (E)
- Sensing (S)/Intuition (N)
- Thinking (T)/ Feeling (F)
- Judging (J)/ Perceiving (P)
I fall into the category of INFJ, apparently one of the rarer personality types. According to 16 Personalities it’s the “advocate”.
The Big Five is another personality test that’s pretty popular. Personally I found it less helpful than the Myers-Briggs, but that’s just me. I prefer the “either or” concept of it rather than a percentage score. Here are the Big Five Personalities:
- Openness to experience (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious).
- Conscientiousness (efficient/organized vs. easy-going/careless).
- Extraversion (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved).
- Agreeableness (friendly/compassionate vs. challenging/detached).
- Neuroticism (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident).
I took a quick quiz online and here are my answers:
So I’m not really open to change, aren’t very organized (that’s debatable depending on the day), the least extrovert ever, relatively agreeable, and incredibly neurotic.
Nothing new here! lol.
This is my least favorite of the personality tests. For me, it’s because I feel like I fall into so many different categories that it makes everything useless. Click here to take the test yourself. My problem is that I scored pretty high on all but one of the numbers. Here are my results:
So I fall somewhere around a 6, 2, 4 and/or 5 with some bits of a 9. It wasn’t the best test for me, but it might be fore you.
These are quick summaries of each of the numbers:
- Type One is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.
- Type Two is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.
- Type Three is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.
- Type Four is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.
- Type Five is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.
- Type Six is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.
- Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.
- Type Eight is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.
- Type Nine is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.
This was the kick-start to me figuring out my life. The personality tests gave me a starting point, something to go off of. I couldn’t say I didn’t know anything about myself anymore, because I just took a whole bunch of personality tests and they had all told me something.
What do you think of my first step? Have you ever taken any of these quizzes? What did you think of your results?
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