When What You Want to Be When You Grow Up Isn’t a Career Choice

When What You Want to Be When You Grow Up Isn’t a Career Choice

When What You Want to Be When You Grow Up Isn't a Career Choice // What can you do when what you want to be when you grow up isn't a career choice? You'll have to read more to find out.

Everyone is asked at least once while a kid, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”.

Not everyone has an actual answer for this question then. That’s okay, you’re only a kid, right?

But what happens when the answer to that questions becomes “I don’t know” slowly into your twenties or thirties? What happens when what you want to be when you grow up is “happy” or “financially stable” or “married with kids”?

Those are fantastic goals to have, but they’re not as easy to obtain. There’s no step-by-step guide on how to be happy with your life, or how to find a partner you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Having a more abstract goal can also make it feel like your goal isn’t a real goal. Especially if it’s something like “be stable” or “to be happy”.

So what can you do when what you want to be when you grow up isn’t a career choice? You’ll have to read more to find out.

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A Goal is a Goal is a Goal

No matter what it is that you want your life goal or your current goal to be, no one can tell you it’s not worth it. No one has control over what you want to do with your life besides yourself. NO ONE. Not even yourself!

So if what you want to be when you grow up is something like “to be a wife and mother” or “to be financially stable and happy with life”, don’t let anyone else tell you that they’re not worthy goals. To me, those are amazing goals! And they’re a lot harder to accomplish because there’s no set strategy or route to take to get there. You can’t major in “being happy” or find a job as a “wife” before you meet your partner.

It’s like having your life goal as an open ended question on a test, there are so many different ways to answer that!

Related: What the F*** Do I Do With My Life?!


Set Up a Plan/Timetable 

Because more abstract goals aren’t as straight forward as a life goal of, let’s say, to become a doctor, you’re going to have to set up your own plan on how to achieve them.

If you want to be a wife and mother, like the example before, you’ll have to plan out how that goes. Usually, that would involve finding a partner you want to spend your life with and moving towards becoming a wife before the a mother (though there’s nothing wrong with becoming a mother before a wife). So your main focus would be something like finding yourself a relationship.

You have to take things one step at a time. However, just because you’re having problems with your plan, it doesn’t mean you’re doing things wrong.

Related: How to Take Your Life Out of the Fast Lane


Set Up Backup Plans

Just because you have a plan, it doesn’t mean that that plan will actually come to fruition. Have variations of how to get to your life goal. 

If your goal is to become financially stable and happy, then you have so many different options to get yourself there. You have an endless option of career choices, including self employment, investment options, and money saving tips.

I’ve always known I wanted to write, and I’ve been blogging from various sites about various subjects from at least my senior year of high school. While this isn’t the longest blog I’ve had (I believe Part Time Nerd has that honor at the moment) they’ve all failed in that I just stop writing. I’m hoping that this one is the one that sticks, but it’s very possible it won’t. 

So don’t box yourself in to one specific plan or timetable. Life can take you to many, many different places, so you might have to adjust for that along the way.

Related: 7 Questions to Ask Yourself When You’re Having a Bad Day


Failure is Okay

Just like with any kind of plan, failure is always a potential option. You may encounter some bumps or even road blocks when trying to get yourself to your end goal. 

And that’s OKAY.

Nothing in life comes up on the first try. At least, not without a lot of luck on your side. And I mean a lot of luck. It’s still possible, but not common at all.

So failing a step or two, being side tracked, or coming across one of those road blocks mentioned above is all part of the process and should even be expected. 

Say you’re studying to be a teacher. You might come across a class that gives you some particular trouble. Or you may become too overwhelmed and need to take a semester off. It’s also possible that halfway through your degree to becoming a teacher that you realize teaching isn’t for you.

All of these things are okay. It’s all about figuring yourself out and the experiences along the way.

Related: Is It Okay to be Content When Everyone Strives to be the Best?


Check in With Yourself Every Now and Then

This is a big one. 

So you have your plan for your goal, right? Think of it as a map. 

You’re driving along, happily, thinking everything is fine. No need to look at the map, right? You’re doing just fine.

But then you start to notice things look very different from what they should be. You’re trying to go to the beach but you’re coming across more and more forests and the temperature is getting colder.

Either the world has frozen over or you might be heading in the wrong direction.

Checking in with yourself and with your goals is a great way to see if you’re still on the right route to getting to where you want to be.

Related: How to Find Yourself During an Existential Crisis: Part 1 – Figure Out Your Personality


When What You Want to Be When You Grow Up Isn't a Career Choice //  What can you do when what you want to be when you grow up isn't a career choice? You'll have to read more to find out.



  • You goal is your goal and no one else can tell you it’s not viable. That includes yourself!
  • Put together a loose plan of how you’re going to achieve your goal so you have a way to figure out how much closer or farther away you are from reaching it.
  • Have some backup plans in case things deviate from how you want them to go. Life is strange, you never know what could come up.
  • It is almost certain that you will fail, but that’s OKAY! Good thing you have those backup plans, right?
  • Check in with yourself every so often to make sure you’re still going in the right direction.


Are any of your life goals more abstract and not a career choice? What are you doing to achieve that goal?


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  1. romcomdojo

    Great advice all around. What’s really helped me is writing everything down and keeping a calendar that I have to update every day! I love the feeling of accomplishment of checking things off my list of small goals for the day.

    1. Thank you! <3

      That's a great idea! I just started using a calendar again since I have appointments I need to keep track of. I was super glued to my planner in college, but because I don't use one every day I tend to forget about it.

      I now have a blog checklist on my wall next to my calendar of things I want to do with it this year. I hope it's helpful.

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