Valentine’s day can be a great day or a bad day, depending on whether or not you’re in a relationship or not. As someone who has not only been single for now 10 years, but also, my last relationship unintentionally ended on February 14th.
I’ve had my fair share of single valentine’s days, and I decided that this year I’m going to treat myself. I’m going to do all the things I wish someone would do for me, and then some!
If you want to know how I will be spending this Valentine’s Day or maybe you’re another single guy or gal looking for some support when the world is full of love and hearts.
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How to Deal With Being Single on Valentine’s Day
I wrote a post last year about how to spend Valentine’s Day alone, which can be different than just being single. You can be single and alone, but you can also be in a relationship and alone. There are so many factors that could come into play.
So this year I’ve decided to take Valentine’s Day into my own hands.
My original plan was to go to Mohegan Sun Casino and treat myself to some games, food, and the overall atmosphere. Despite being such an introvert, I love the casino. I guess it’s the idea of there being so many people you can be alone while surrounded by a crowd.
I was going to go to a restaurant and treat myself with a meal, some slot machines and maybe a visit to the only Krispy Kreme in the state.
But I decided to reconsider that because Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday.
Send Yourself a Gift at Work
As I mentioned in my Why I love Valentine’s Day post, I’ve always wanted someone to send me a gift at work.
It sounds silly and cheesy, but I love the idea of someone wanting to show how much they care by sending me something that other people can see. However, I don’t want it to be a life-sized teddy bear or something extravagant like that. A simple delivery from edible arrangements would do just fine
And that’s what I’m going to do.
They have smaller gifts in their Under $30 section that you can choose from. Delivery sucks, as it’s $14.99 but there is a pop up for a coupon when you first go to the site anyway, so it can help offset things.
Yes, I’m going to spend almost $50 on sending myself a box of chocolate covered fruit. No, I don’t care what you think. Yes, they will be delicious. Turns out I have to have a cyst on my finger removed that day, so I’ll be taking the day off and recouping from all that.
If this is something you want to do for yourself, go for that! Send yourself that gift, guy yourself some flowers, or get yourself that box of heart chocolates. Get yourself a Valentine’s Day card if you want!
Get Yourself a Gift (Splurge a little)
I’m not talking about chocolate or sweets or anything. I want to get myself a gift and spend the money I would on a significant other. I want to treat myself to a necklace that I can wear on the daily and isn’t too flashy.
I want something more than cheap jewelry that I barely wear anyway. I want something meaningful that I can wear on a daily basis and goes with everything.
If you want to splurge on something for yourself that you would want a partner to get for you, consider it if it’s in your budget. If you want a new leather wallet, get that for yourself. If you want a piece of jewelry like a ring of necklace, get it.
This day is about love, and loving yourself is something that everyone should have. Showing you love yourself is a big thing in this day in age. If you want to learn more about loving yourself if you’re not in the best state of mind, check out my friend Jenni over at The Housewife Hustle. She talks a lot about self love and body positivity. She recently did a post about How to Fall In Love with Yourself for Valentine’s Day which is a great read for anyone.
Get Valentine’s Day Cards for Coworkers/Friends
Remember when you were a kid and everyone traded Valentine’s Day cards? Well, what’s stopping you from doing that as an adult? You have the funds and there’s no real reason not to, so if you want to get your friends, family, or coworkers a box of Valentine’s Day cards, then you do it!
Sometimes it’s fun to feel like a kid again, and getting Valentine’s Day cards for those you care about with silly little cartoons and maybe a lollipop or two is definitely a way to channel your inner child.
You could also buy some chocolates and leave them out for the rest of your office. A lot of people in my office tend to bring in left over goodies from various events they have, or will bake things to bring in. I’m more of a buy the goodies type of person, and will occasionally contribute to the office candy dish.
Valentine’s is a day to have fun, and getting silly cartoon cards for your coworkers, or even making your own for each person, is totally a way to have fun while showing you care!
Related: How to Spend Valentine’s Day Alone
Treat Yourself to Dinner
This could mean something as simple as ordering take out from your favorite restaurant, ordering something from your local fast food drive thru, or something as fancy as making a reservation for yourself at that restaurant you’ve been wanting to try but haven’t had the time to go to.
Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday this year, so most people don’t have to worry about work the next morning. Go out and have fun! Get all dressed up if you want, pretend you’re going on a date. Because in reality, you are going on a date. You’re taking yourself on a date!
Even if you’re only ordering take out from Grub Hub, if you want to get dressed up, do it. Want to put on a full face of makeup, do your hair, and take a picture with your Chinese take out containers? You do that.
Whatever it is you’re doing, treat yourself to something you like.
Relax, Destress, and Have a Spa Night
If you’re a homebody like I am, staying in is a much better idea that going out for the night. So when you’re done eating your take out, or you’ve gotten home from your self date night, take a shower, or wash your face and use a face mask. Use a fancy body scrub, or that luxury body lotion that you’ve been saving for a special occasion.
Turn the lights down, light some candles, put in a scented plugin, or turn on your oil diffuser. Put on your comfiest pajamas or lounge clothes, and relax. You can turn on some ambient sounds if you want to meditate, your favorite movie, TV show, or Youtube channel if you’re up to relaxing with some entertainment, and just enjoy the night for yourself.
Make yourself a mug of your favorite drink, sit back and relax. Take this time to love yourself for being yourself. Enjoy your own company and have fun!
Have a Night Out
If you’re not one for a night in with a relaxing spa night, head out for a night on the town! (or a night at the bar, your choice) I wouldn’t be surprised if bars have some kind of “speed dating” or single related Valentine’s Day night.
If not, head out with your friends for a night out, a few drinks, and have fun just celebrating yourselves! See if your bartender can make any of these 30 Valentine’s themed cocktails.
Dance the night away, listen to a band at your local bar or pub, or do what ever it is people do when they go out.
Whatever it is, celebrate you and the love you have for yourself!
- Send Yourself a Gift at Work. I’m going to be sending myself a box of chocolate covered fruit from Edible Arrangements. No, I don’t care what you think.
- Get Yourself a Gift (Splurge a little). Get yourself that gift you wish a significant other would.
- Get Valentine’s Day Cards for Coworkers/Friends. Remember how you felt when you got a Valentine’s Day card from someone you liked as a kid? Revisit that feeling this year.
- Treat Yourself to Dinner. Take your lovely self out for a date!
- Relax, Destress, and Have a Spa Night. All you homebodies have the time of your life, by yourself!
- Have a Night Out. All you non-homebodies, head out and have some fun with friends!
Are you spending Valentine’s Day single this year? What are you going to do for Valentine’s Day?