How to Know You’re Finally Ready for a Real Relationship

How to Know You’re Finally Ready for a Real Relationship


There’s nothing wrong with wanting a relationship, but the problem comes when you may not be ready for a relationship and you try to force it to happen. I know that I’m at the point where I really want a relationship but I know I’m not ready for it yet. But I do think I know what I should be like before I’m ready for a relationship.

Not everyone is going to be the same, but there are a few core things you should have, be, or believe before you know you’re ready for a relationship.

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How to Know You’re Ready for a Relationship

Everyone wants a relationship at some point in their life, whether that be a sexual or romantic relationship or both. Relationships are part of the way the world works and procreates. So, finding a mate is an ideal goal for most people. Unfortunately, there are times when you are and aren’t ready for a relationship. These are a few ways to know you’re ready for a relationship.


You’re Not Still Pining Over Someone

This is my problem. I’m still pining over someone and that makes it hard to form any kind of relationship with someone else. If you’re still in love or not completely over someone, you’re not ready for a relationship. So, make sure you’re completely single in heart and soul before you try to start a relationship.

If you start a relationship when you are still in love with someone else it’s going to not only be hard to form a connection with someone else, it’s going to be harder to maintain that relationship. For me it’s making it impossible to form any kind of meaningful connection with someone else. No matter how many dating apps I have in my life, I keep swiping left. And the few I do swipe right on, the conversation tends to fall flat.

In order to have a good and healthy relationship with someone, you need to completely be detached from anyone else.

Related: Are You Sabotaging Your Own Relationships?



You’re Happy With Where You Are

Another way to know you’re ready for a relationship is being happy with where you are in life. This isn’t always right for everyone, but most people prefer to be in a good part of their life before starting a relationship. That’s just common sense to me. I don’t want to take on the responsibility of caring for another person on a very personal level in the middle of a bad part of my life. But that’s just me.

Most people prefer to have an idea of where their life is going before they start a relationship, but this doesn’t always hold true. Sometimes a relationship can form during the worst parts of your life and be the shining light that keeps you going. But that’s not a common sentiment.

When you’re happy with where you are you don’t have much else to worry about and have the emotional, mental, and physical capacity to spare on a relationship.


Related: Are you Codependent in your Relationships?


You’re Ready to Share Your Life

Sometimes we forget that starting a relationship means that we now share our lives with another person. This can be a lot harder for some over others to realize. When you get into a relationship with someone, you’re not only gaining access to their life but you’re giving them access to yours.

You now have a partner you have to share your time, emotional meter, physical meter, and everything else with.

Some times we just want someone to cuddle with and call us pretty… That’s not much of a relationship.

I know all too well about wanting a relationship to be in love because I was in love with the idea of being in love. I wasn’t ready to share my life and have someone else in my life, I just craved attention from someone else because I wasn’t getting it anywhere at the time. Despite it being my first relationship, it was incredibly toxic and I wasn’t ready for a relationship in general.

Related: How to Have a Good Relationship With Yourself



You’re Ready to Settle Down (optional)

This is an optional way you’re ready to know if you’re ready for a relationship, as not all relationships will or are meant to be forever relationships that forms a family. But, a lot of people who know they’re ready for a relationship are ready to settle down. They want to find someone to spend the rest of their life with and create a family and so on.

The older I get the easier it’s come to terms with wanting to settle down. I’ve been wanting to settle down for a while. BUT… I’m still stuck on someone and can’t get them out of my head. I tried going through dating apps and talking to a few guys but I could never really get into the conversations. (That’s more on them not responding after initial greetings. What’s up with that??)

If you’re ready to settle down you should be ready for a relationship to go with it. I can’t wait to settle down. I’m definitely ready to do so, and the Single Housewife posts are my way of experiencing that part of my life without the relationship since I know I’m not ready for that, unless it’s with this one specific person.


Do you have any other ways to know if you’re ready for a relationship? Let me know in the comments!


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This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. Michael Kelly

    I really like your ways of knowing if you are ready for a relationship. One I would add based on my experience is that your ready for a relationship is when you want a relationship and not a cure. At a time in my life, a lot of my relationships where based on being a cure. A cure for being alone and my loneliness. Which was incredible selfish of me. I was using the other person in the relationship. No wonder they failed.

    Another one would be “Are you ready to take the risk?”. There is nothing to say that when a relationship starts that it will stay together. We go with what we know about the other person, our own feelings and their feelings and make a decision. But later things may come up that doom the relationship. If that time comes as a person then are we willing to break off the relationship and move on? If not then a person shouldn’t start a relationship because it will cause all kinds of problems later if the relationship doesn’t work.

    In the end, we can hope the relationship works out and the rewards that come with that. But at the same time we have to plan that it doesn’t work out. If we realize from that planning that we are not ready or unwilling to take the risk then we are not ready for a relationship.

  2. Love, Em

    Thank you for sharing these tips! I found it hard to know whether I wanted a relationship, or wanted someone to be there. Once you realise what you really want, it makes the relationship so much easier and better!

    Love, Em x

  3. Martina

    Being happy with where you are in life is very important, and also accept being single. Some people just want to be with someone in order not to be alone. Thank you for a lovely article :).

  4. Abby

    These are some great tips. I wholeheartedly agree with being in a happy place yourself before you let someone else in permanently!

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