5 Steps to Take to Finding Your Inner Calm During the Holidays

5 Steps to Take to Finding Your Inner Calm During the Holidays


The holidays can be a stressful time, even if you’re having fun! Finding your inner calm during the holidays is a big deal if you’re over stressed, over worked, and tire from social interaction easily.

There are a few ways you can find your inner calm during the holiday, and I’m going to go through what I have done in the past. These steps are quick, easy, and able to be done anywhere!

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5 Steps to Take to Finding Your Inner Calm During the Holidays

Finding your inner calm during the holidays is something I’m in big favor of.

As some of you who have read my blog for a while, you might know that I don’t have the best relationship with my family. They’re toxic in their own ways and I need to limit my contact with them to keep my sanity.

If you have family like I do, finding your inner calm is a way to keep your cool when you really want to strangle someone or cry from overwhelm.



Step 1: Remove Yourself

The first step to finding your inner calm during the holidays is to remove yourself from the situation.

This can be as simple as locking yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes to get away from everything that’s going on. It could be running to your car to grab something you “forgot”, or even volunteering to run out and grab something that was forgotten.

Whatever you do, you need to get yourself away from what’s causing the stress and problems.

Related: How To Recover From Your Family Filled Holidays as an Introvert 



Step 2: Take 10 Deep Breaths

After you’ve removed yourself from the situation, the second step to finding your inner calm during the holidays is to take 10 deep breaths.

Taking deep breaths is a way to calm yourself down if you’re in a high anxiety situation or overly stressed.

Deep abdominal breathing encourages full oxygen exchange — that is, the beneficial trade of incoming oxygen for outgoing carbon dioxide. Not surprisingly, this type of breathing slows the heartbeat and can lower or stabilize blood pressure. [x]

Deep breaths are proven to slow yourself down. Just make sure you’re taking full, deep breaths, instead of shallow breaths, otherwise it won’t be effective.

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Step 3: Count

Now that you’ve gotten your breathing under control, the next step in finding your inner calm during the holidays is to give counting a try.

You can choose the number you want to count to, but I usually count to ab out 20 or so. But don’t do this like when you used to count during hide and seek as a kid. You have to count slowly and patiently.

Counting will help you focus on something besides the stessors, and gives you the time to stay away from the problems that make you need to find your inner calm.

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Step 4: Take a Drink

No, I don’t mean an alcoholic drink, but grab yourself a drink like a warm beverage or even a glass of water.

Keeping hydrated is an incredibly important part of keeping your cool, and when you’re trying to find your inner calm during the holidays.

There’s also the plus that a warm beverage like a tea or even a coffee can be a relaxing moment. When I’m stressed out I gravitate towards green tea. I’ve definitely woken up in the middle of the night and gotten a warm cup of decaf green tea or chamomile tea that’s helped me get back to sleep.

Warm drinks make you feel warm and calmed, so grab yourself a cup of tea or coffee, or even some warm milk!

Related: How to Relax When You Don’t Know How to Relax


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Step 5: Reassure Yourself

When you’re all said and done, all that’s left for finding your inner calm during the holidays is to reassure yourself you can do this.

It doesn’t matter what you’re going back into, as long as you believe in yourself you will be able to do it.

Take a look at this personal bill or rights if you want to make sure you know what you’re allowed to believe about yourself.

I have this saved on my phone and put it as a background when I go to visit family. It reminds me that I don’t have to deal with the BS that can come up when I’m there.

If you want, save this to your own phone and keep it as a reminder to yourself.


Well, that’s it! Those are my 5 steps to finding your inner calm during the holidays. Have you tried any of these? Let me know in the comments!


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